I've concluded that I am just narcissistic. I want to be loved. I want people to appreciate, value and love me for what I do and who I am. All of us have a need to be loved and appreciated -- I don't know anyone who prefers to be unloved and unappreciated. But I am afraid that my need to be loved and appreciated may be pathological. I get anxious in certain situations if I do not feel loved and appreciated. Although, my need for love and appreciation is certainly not as acute as some people I know -- my skin is not that thin. However, my need to feel love and appreciated is often unsatisfied. Oh, to be loved!
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I think that I may be the same way.
c-dell -- then I guess I'm in good company.
Your need for appreciation doesn't make you a Narcissist. If you told yourself that you are the king and that you are "it" all the time...if you always felt above everyone else, then you would have a self love that would be unhealthy and you could call that Narcissism.
But, to want appreciation, to want a pad in the back, to desire to receive words like : "well done, that was awesome"... it's a basic human need.
Some dwell in the meanings of being appreciated and truly value appreciation...those people J. give it. They understand the inheritant need, and pass it on.
Then pass it on again and again. Until they (we) are able to value others the way we value ourselves...Then suddenly we have learned to "love our neighbor like ourselves." ......... and really soon after that we learn that it is better to give than to receive.
Love you J. and I think you are great!!
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